Who would have ever imagined that the chaos that comes with a baby would start before there is even a baby to speak of? For my husband and I, the baby chaos began before we even got married. On the verge of engagement, many relatives thought it appropriate to ask when we planned on having children. This didn't bother me much; I just don't find it proper to ask a couple still in the dating phase what their very serious long-term plans are, because they could change at any minute.
What DID bother me is when we did become engaged and announced the date for our wedding. Did you know that planning a wedding in just under three months automatically makes you a candidate for pregnancy? A short engagement couldn't have anything to do with the fact that I had just accepted a job far away, we were moving, or just wanted a simple wedding that wouldn't require much work to assemble. Dear friends and family members assumed I must have a baby on board with such a quick agenda. Well I'll tell you the truth, and that was that the joke was on everyone who assumed I was pregnant. My now-husband and I had been together for two years already, and been talking marriage since month three of our relationship. We already knew when our wedding would be, even before he put a ring on it. Yes, I'll admit that my stomach looks a bit like a bump in my wedding photos, as noted by a cousin of mine. Why? Because I let people talk me into a dress that was not my top pick, and happened to be several sizes too big. When altered, the shape of the dress changed entirely, and highlighted my stomach more than I had hoped for. A recent college graduate is expected to be carrying a little more weight than usual, and you can bet mine was from a cheeseburger (or two, or three, or many,) not a baby.
I cannot even count how many times I was asked if I was pregnant that summer. I tried to shrug it off with a smile, but it was hard. Many people asked repeatedly, like they thought I was lying and would change my answer if they prodded more. These were mostly people very close to me, and I was shocked to see that they didn't believe me. I finally had to tell them that they needed to study up on how babies were made, then realize that there was no possible way for me to be pregnant.
I guess these people finally got it through their thick skulls that I indeed was not pregnant. So what did they do the moment we returned from our honeymoon? Prod about when we were planning on children! It amazes me how people will pry into someone else's personal life to inquire about such a thing. It wasn't that these people (uh-hem, relatives) were being polite in their curiosity. They were downright demanding. They were pushy. And when I told them that we wanted to wait at least two years before having children, they were just plain rude. As I discussed in my last post, I am a bit OCD; so it should come as no surprise that I have a sort of timeline for my entire life planned out. This included graduating college before marriage, waiting two years before having kids, and so forth. So far my plan was working, and I wanted to stick to it. Not for the sake of just sticking to a plan I made when I was thirteen or so, but for the sake of common sense and logic! I wanted time to enjoy with my husband before kids stepped into the picture. Being married at a fairly young age, I also felt that we needed to grow up a little first. We needed to get accustomed to big kid jobs, paying bills, and basically just being adults.
Stay tuned to read some SHOCKING tale of pushy people praying for me to have a baby. (Hint: It's Wacky In-Law Wednesday, isn't it?)
XOXO- Barnyard Baby Momma
What DID bother me is when we did become engaged and announced the date for our wedding. Did you know that planning a wedding in just under three months automatically makes you a candidate for pregnancy? A short engagement couldn't have anything to do with the fact that I had just accepted a job far away, we were moving, or just wanted a simple wedding that wouldn't require much work to assemble. Dear friends and family members assumed I must have a baby on board with such a quick agenda. Well I'll tell you the truth, and that was that the joke was on everyone who assumed I was pregnant. My now-husband and I had been together for two years already, and been talking marriage since month three of our relationship. We already knew when our wedding would be, even before he put a ring on it. Yes, I'll admit that my stomach looks a bit like a bump in my wedding photos, as noted by a cousin of mine. Why? Because I let people talk me into a dress that was not my top pick, and happened to be several sizes too big. When altered, the shape of the dress changed entirely, and highlighted my stomach more than I had hoped for. A recent college graduate is expected to be carrying a little more weight than usual, and you can bet mine was from a cheeseburger (or two, or three, or many,) not a baby.
I cannot even count how many times I was asked if I was pregnant that summer. I tried to shrug it off with a smile, but it was hard. Many people asked repeatedly, like they thought I was lying and would change my answer if they prodded more. These were mostly people very close to me, and I was shocked to see that they didn't believe me. I finally had to tell them that they needed to study up on how babies were made, then realize that there was no possible way for me to be pregnant.
I guess these people finally got it through their thick skulls that I indeed was not pregnant. So what did they do the moment we returned from our honeymoon? Prod about when we were planning on children! It amazes me how people will pry into someone else's personal life to inquire about such a thing. It wasn't that these people (uh-hem, relatives) were being polite in their curiosity. They were downright demanding. They were pushy. And when I told them that we wanted to wait at least two years before having children, they were just plain rude. As I discussed in my last post, I am a bit OCD; so it should come as no surprise that I have a sort of timeline for my entire life planned out. This included graduating college before marriage, waiting two years before having kids, and so forth. So far my plan was working, and I wanted to stick to it. Not for the sake of just sticking to a plan I made when I was thirteen or so, but for the sake of common sense and logic! I wanted time to enjoy with my husband before kids stepped into the picture. Being married at a fairly young age, I also felt that we needed to grow up a little first. We needed to get accustomed to big kid jobs, paying bills, and basically just being adults.
Stay tuned to read some SHOCKING tale of pushy people praying for me to have a baby. (Hint: It's Wacky In-Law Wednesday, isn't it?)
XOXO- Barnyard Baby Momma